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"Nothing is more deceitful than the appereance of humility. It is often an indirect boast.
You are really proud of your defects in writing, because you consider them as proceeding from a rapidity of thought you think highly interesting. When you told Mrs. Bennet this morning that if you ever resolved on quitting Netherfield you should be gone on five minutes, you meant it to be a compliment to yourself- and yet what is there sovery laudable in a precipitance which must leave very neccessary business undone?"

This is one of my favorite quotes on Pride and Prejudice. Because, as everything about the book, it is so precisely right. Most of us, myself included, presume our faults because we think of them as something cool, relaxed or good in front of everyone else. We put it as if it were the right thing to have those flaws. While giving the impression of being humble, not self-centered, and vulnerable. Such a dick move. Yet I always play that card.
The other day I was watching this movie called "The Jane Austen Bookclub". I've got to admit I enjoyed it a lot, it somehow resembles what I feel when I watch The Holiday with Cameron Diaz and Kate Winset. I feel free and identified with the characters. I feel joyful. I feel like it's the real lifes of people we are seeing on the television. Yet I have got to admit I didn't understand or- more accurately- wasn't able to reflect much about it because I haven't read all Jane Austen books, so I couldn't really make all the connections and realizations. Nevertheless, I fully recomend it. It portrays really well how relationships work, what others think about them, and, I believe, about impulsive love and patient love.
As is in evidence the lesbian girl on the film. She is an impulsive lover. She finds herself completely carried away and enrolled in relationships with people she met only a few days ago. She lets herself be driven by impulsivity, passion and new flings. So is the love of the husband that cheats, that way also following the paths of impulse.
Then there is the patient love of the wife who forgives, and that of the one that has enough control over herself as to not letting things go further with a student. And so is the kind, but spoiled and altruistic love of the friend, who always seeks other's satisfaction in love but failes to do the same with her romantic life.
I believe there's got to be a bit of the two in every succesful and lasting relationship. There's got to be passion and spark that keep the fire going throughout the years. The impulse of satisfaction in each other. But the patient love is the one to give length to the relationship. The one that is going to allow only one fire at a time. The one that is going to see beyond the heat, and into the wood that sustains it.

The other perfect quotes from the book (so far) go like this:
"Yes, vanity is a weakness indeed. But pride- where there is real superiority of mind, pride will be always under good regulation".

"Your defect is a propensity to hate every body.
And yours is willfully yo misunderstand them."- What's worse?

And I'm just gonna leave those two to stand by themselves.

WG